Before, I posted something about Chinese tradition that I promised myself I would not do it anymore.
But this time around, it’s really driving me crazy.
For the love of God, how do you expect your own son to fall for someone right away?! How do you expect me to simply move on from my past relationship and date someone they’ve just met 2 weeks ago that they liked to death?
Are they really that desperate finding me a new special someone knowing myself can’t even move on from my tainted past?
Promise broken. Let me bash these people for one more time. I just can’t take it anymore. Just one last time.
Months after I broke up with someone, my parents were so excited that I finally broke up with someone that they don’t approve me having a relationship. They were so thrilled to know that their only son is finally single and separated from my girlfriend. For the second time in 2 months, they tried to set me up with someone. Most recently, on a special date 10-10-10, they set me up with someone whom they got to know on a Buddhist temple. Before setting up the meeting, my parents kept asking for my picture. They kept pushing me to give them my recently taken photo to show this to the girl that is being arranged to me.
Kai-Shaw. This is an ancient tradition that Chinese people called for setting up a male and a female hoping to end up in a relationship. Now, let me rephrase their call for Kai-Shaw. It should be called Haw-Shaw.. in short for crazy or unbelievable.
For a long period of time, I told them I had a girlfriend that I know they won’t approve. I tried my best to convince them to at least get to know or at least meet her. All I heard was “Hiwalayan mo yan!” or “Di namin tatanggapin yan!” or the worst case “Tanga ka ba?! Tingin mo papayag ako i-meet yan?!”.
Now, all I’m hearing from them are lines that is so similar.. lines such as “Kelan mo siya i-memeet ulit?” or “Nagtetext ba kayo? Text mo ha mike..” or the worst case “Bakit di mo siya tinext ngayon?”
I just realized that they must really hate my previous girlfriend that they kept pushing me to meet someone that they really liked regardless if I’m interested or not.
Isn’t this what we call as the modern Crab Mentality?!
If there is really a God, please let them realize that meeting or even falling for someone is not a forceful action. You just can’t force their own and only son to like someone just because my parents like the family or the girl. You can’t ask me stupid questions like what I stated above. Even monks from Buddhist temple call at our house looking for rumors about our development with the girl that they arranged for me. They even know that I didn’t text her that day or that week.
Monks?! You’re the slave or we so-called prophet of Buddha yet even they are trying to intervene in my fucked up life.
Like we used to say, “Are you kidding me?”
Again, this is another stupid tradition invented by a stupid man. Yes, I’m bashing my own tradition again. It’s pretty senseless to force someone to like someone and ending up in marriage. It’s a stupid point of view considering I have a girlfriend before yet they don’t ever said “Text mo siya ha mike..”. All I heard was “Hiwalayan mo siya!”. Isn’t it painful enough for my side wishing they could have said those words when I was with my previous girlfriend? Isn’t it frustrating enough that they kept pushing a “REBOUND” girl for me?
It’s ok if they want to set me up with someone but don’t force me to go out with her. It’s ok if they tried to introduce me to someone but please, please, please never force me to like her. It’s not an ideal feeling hearing those stupid questions from them. Do they really believe that I’m desperate to find a new girlfriend?!
All these times, I still like my previous girlfriend. I still wondered what could have happened if we’re still together. Countless nights I hoped that time can be turned back so that I could have done things differently. I have slowly accepted the fact that we’re not meant to be. I have accepted the fact that it was our culture that led us to be separated.
Now, I’m starting to regret why I was even born Chinese… again…
To my relatives who can read this blog, please help me. Please let my parents realize in their teeny-weeny brain that it was never easy losing someone and it was never a bright idea to force me to meet someone in just a short period of time. Please let them realize that if I ever learn to love again, I want to do it in my way, not their way.
Before, I have done everything they want just in order for them to meet my ex-girlfriend yet they didn’t give in to my request. Now, it’s my time to decline their request.
As I will say this again for one last time… Chinese people who found this post offensive.. I’m open to suggestions if you dare…
But this time around, it’s really driving me crazy.
For the love of God, how do you expect your own son to fall for someone right away?! How do you expect me to simply move on from my past relationship and date someone they’ve just met 2 weeks ago that they liked to death?
Are they really that desperate finding me a new special someone knowing myself can’t even move on from my tainted past?
Promise broken. Let me bash these people for one more time. I just can’t take it anymore. Just one last time.
Months after I broke up with someone, my parents were so excited that I finally broke up with someone that they don’t approve me having a relationship. They were so thrilled to know that their only son is finally single and separated from my girlfriend. For the second time in 2 months, they tried to set me up with someone. Most recently, on a special date 10-10-10, they set me up with someone whom they got to know on a Buddhist temple. Before setting up the meeting, my parents kept asking for my picture. They kept pushing me to give them my recently taken photo to show this to the girl that is being arranged to me.
Kai-Shaw. This is an ancient tradition that Chinese people called for setting up a male and a female hoping to end up in a relationship. Now, let me rephrase their call for Kai-Shaw. It should be called Haw-Shaw.. in short for crazy or unbelievable.
For a long period of time, I told them I had a girlfriend that I know they won’t approve. I tried my best to convince them to at least get to know or at least meet her. All I heard was “Hiwalayan mo yan!” or “Di namin tatanggapin yan!” or the worst case “Tanga ka ba?! Tingin mo papayag ako i-meet yan?!”.
Now, all I’m hearing from them are lines that is so similar.. lines such as “Kelan mo siya i-memeet ulit?” or “Nagtetext ba kayo? Text mo ha mike..” or the worst case “Bakit di mo siya tinext ngayon?”
I just realized that they must really hate my previous girlfriend that they kept pushing me to meet someone that they really liked regardless if I’m interested or not.
Isn’t this what we call as the modern Crab Mentality?!
If there is really a God, please let them realize that meeting or even falling for someone is not a forceful action. You just can’t force their own and only son to like someone just because my parents like the family or the girl. You can’t ask me stupid questions like what I stated above. Even monks from Buddhist temple call at our house looking for rumors about our development with the girl that they arranged for me. They even know that I didn’t text her that day or that week.
Monks?! You’re the slave or we so-called prophet of Buddha yet even they are trying to intervene in my fucked up life.
Like we used to say, “Are you kidding me?”
Again, this is another stupid tradition invented by a stupid man. Yes, I’m bashing my own tradition again. It’s pretty senseless to force someone to like someone and ending up in marriage. It’s a stupid point of view considering I have a girlfriend before yet they don’t ever said “Text mo siya ha mike..”. All I heard was “Hiwalayan mo siya!”. Isn’t it painful enough for my side wishing they could have said those words when I was with my previous girlfriend? Isn’t it frustrating enough that they kept pushing a “REBOUND” girl for me?
It’s ok if they want to set me up with someone but don’t force me to go out with her. It’s ok if they tried to introduce me to someone but please, please, please never force me to like her. It’s not an ideal feeling hearing those stupid questions from them. Do they really believe that I’m desperate to find a new girlfriend?!
All these times, I still like my previous girlfriend. I still wondered what could have happened if we’re still together. Countless nights I hoped that time can be turned back so that I could have done things differently. I have slowly accepted the fact that we’re not meant to be. I have accepted the fact that it was our culture that led us to be separated.
Now, I’m starting to regret why I was even born Chinese… again…
To my relatives who can read this blog, please help me. Please let my parents realize in their teeny-weeny brain that it was never easy losing someone and it was never a bright idea to force me to meet someone in just a short period of time. Please let them realize that if I ever learn to love again, I want to do it in my way, not their way.
Before, I have done everything they want just in order for them to meet my ex-girlfriend yet they didn’t give in to my request. Now, it’s my time to decline their request.
As I will say this again for one last time… Chinese people who found this post offensive.. I’m open to suggestions if you dare…
